Monday, September 21, 2015

Hospital Bag Faves

A lot of my friends have recently added sweet little babies to their families; some are first time mamas and some are adding to their already awesome bunch. Either way it just gives me the warm fuzzies all over. 

I absolutely looooooooove newborns. They smell good, they're soft, and when I look into their little faces I can't help but wonder what their personalities are going to be like as they grow. So much potential in such a tiny package...

Sorry, got a little off track there!

Even though I do have a cute little baby to hold and squeeze, Zoe is now six months old and far beyond the newbie phase. But watching my friends have their babies makes me reminisce about my birth experiences. A couple of friends asked me what things I found helpful to bring with me to the hospital, so I thought it'd be fun to make a post of my favorite items that I brought with me when I had my wee ones. Hopefully this list is helpful for you prego mamas out there!

For labor:

- Essential oils and a diffuser. Keeping lavender oil diffusing helped to keep the room nice and calm.  I also diffused some lemon oil during our postnatal stay; it helps to purify the air (you know, hospitals and all the lovely stuff that floats around in there) and it smells delightful.

- Flameless candles. The labor room had a little switch to keep the lights dim, but there's nothing like candles to sort of set a relaxing mood. 

- Playlist. I didn't actually get around to using this while I was in labor (I thought about it but then, yet another contraction hit and that's when I decided I hated everyone and everything) but I did use it a lot in the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I made sure to be very selective about the songs that I included; only songs that would help keep me focused and calm.

- Snacks. Obviously once I was in the throws of serious labor eating was the last thing on my mind, but I did manage to take a few bites of peanut butter mixed with honey (I found these cool little packets of the stuff at the health food store) a few times which helped to boost my energy for a little while. Of course this totally depends on what your doctor is okay with, so make sure you ask. 

I also brought snacks for my mom and Derek, since labor is a long ride for the coaches too.


- Nursing cover. I didn't have one when I had Toby, but I remembered to bring one when Zoe was born. It came it handy when I needed to nurse while there were visitors. Of course, don't feel like you can't ask for privacy if it's too complicated to nurse your newbie with a cover; people will understand and be totally fine with being asked to step out of the room for a little while.

- iPad. This was so helpful for sharing the news of Zoe's arrival and keeping in touch with friends and family. Derek and I also took full advantage of the free wifi and caught up on our Netflix shows when there wasn't anything good on the hospital's tv. 

- Nursing Pillow. After the birth I was so exhausted that I could barely keep my head up, let alone have the strength to keep my arms up while nursing. The pillow made nursing and snuggling so much easier. 

- Light Sweater. It might sound kind of silly but this was probably one of the things I was most glad I brought. Postpartum hormones are cray cray, and since there was no way to control the temperature, having a light cardigan on hand was super helpful.

- Travel Size Toiletries. Instead of trying to remember to bring these things (toothbrush and toothpaste, body wash, etc.) as we were walking out of the door, I opted to pick up the small sizes of these items at the store and pack them in my bag ahead of time; I made sure to get some for Derek's Daddy Bag, too. 

What were your hospital bag faves? 

Sunday, September 13, 2015

Ten on Ten

Ten on Ten:: September Edition

1. Early morning overcast skies
2. Breakfast date with this handsome little guy
3. Took a trip to Target
4. Sweet little face
5. Putting Ten on Ten on the calendar helped me remember it
6. Taking down the Pac'n'Play since Zoe and Toby are now sharing a room
7. Apparently the truck is a "great friend"
8. Miniature piano prodigy
9. Don't Break the Ice
10. Dinner: chicken bratwurst with sauteed kale and mashed potatoes. Sort of a play on Bangers and Mash.

Thursday, September 3, 2015

I'm That Mom

Why is it that whenever we refer to ourselves as "that mom", we say it as if it's a bad thing?

Like when we recount a story of having to abandon the shopping cart at the grocery store, because the kids are having a hell-hath-no-fury-meltdown and it's just time to go.

Or when we get excited that a firetruck passes by, even though the kids aren't in the car.

Why do we call ourselves "that mom" because we babywear and diffuse essential oils and cosleep?

Or because our three-year-old is the last of his little friends to finally jump on the potty-training bandwagon, and we're really very okay with that?

Why do we call ourselves "that mom" because we bribe our toddler with jelly beans? Ya gotta do whatcha gotta do, am I right?

Why do we make it sound like we are anything less than what we are? We're amazing! And while we're on the subject, just who is "that mom"? She sounds pretty awesome to me. She sounds like a woman that I can relate to because she's working her hardest to be the Mom that God intended her to be.

It's just a fact, being a mom means making sacrifices. It's a sacrifice to leave that shopping cart full of groceries because those miniature people need to be trained that screaming like a banshee is not an acceptable way to behave in public. Child-training isn't easy, it takes time and sacrifice.

It's a sacrifice to drop the kids off with grandma so that we can go sit at Starbucks to enjoy an uninterrupted cup of coffee, and just people-watch. Yes, I'm calling it a sacrifice because let's be real: while it is important to have much needed child-free time, it takes effort to get ourselves dressed in something non-frumpy, get the wee ones dressed, diaper bag packed, milk pumped, car loaded with aforementioned wee ones, commute through crazy construction to grandma's house... just for one hour of self time. Sometimes it seems easier to stay home, enlist the help of TV-sitter, pop the coffee in the microwave for the thousandth time, and stay in our yoga pants.

Moms, listen up! I propose that we stop calling ourselves "that mom" with a sense of shame and we just own it. Let's stop putting ourselves down and start calling ourselves That Mom because "that mom" is doing an outstanding job of caring for her children. Let's say it loud and proud, ya'll!

If we want the Mommy Wars to stop we have to embrace our individuality and be secure in being the mom that our children need us to be. Sometimes being that mom means we'll have some crazy moments in our lives, but hey, life is supposed to be an adventure right?

I'll kick things off with some of ways that I am "that mom"...

I'm that mom because sometimes my kids and I don't get out of our pajamas because we're too busy snuggling on the couch having a movie day until an hour before daddy gets home from work.

I'm that mom that let's her kid dance to "Uptown Funk" about a thousand times before breakfast.

I'm that mom that puts amber bead teething necklaces on her babies.

I'm that mom that wanted to have natural, drug-free births; then threw in the towel and begged for the epidural.

I'm that mom that can't remember the last time she showered.

I'm that mom that negotiates the amount of jelly beans her toddler can have depending on whether he pees or poops on the potty.

I'm that mom that cries whenever her little ones reach a new milestone.

I'm that mom.

Are you that mom? Share it with pride in the comments below!

Thursday, August 13, 2015

Ten on Ten

Ten on Ten :: August 2015 Edition

1. good morning, sweet little face
2. bible story during breakfast
3. play time
4. school time
5. editing family photos with my little assistant
6. cloudy skies
7. a striped weed in the front yard
8. coffee table literature
9. newspaper

Once again, I didn't get all ten photos; but at least I got more than I did in June.

August means that Summer is coming to a close, and it always makes me a little sad. I love Summer. I'm thankful that for us out here in the desert, we still have a few more months of heat; I hate cold weather. Farewell Summer. Can't wait for next year :)

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Talks with Toby

A few weeks ago, I conducted my own interview with Toby because, ya know, kids say the darndest things. Here's how it went:

1. what is something that mommy always says to you?
"eat pie pack"

2. what makes you happy?

3. what makes you sad?
"boo hoo!"

4. what makes you laugh?
"ha ha ha!"

5. how old are you?

6. how old is mommy?

7. how old is daddy?

8. what is your favorite thing to do?

9. who do you like to play with?
"lightening mcqueen"

10. what do you want to be when you grow up?
"a player! pee pa po!"

11. what are you really good at doing?
(makes crashing noise)

12. what did you do today?
"i went to outer space on sunday"

13. what is your favorite thing to eat?

14. what is your favorite song to sing?
"daddy's song"

15. what do you want for your birthday next year?
"a firetruck"

16. what does daddy do for work?
"the 'puter" (translation: the computer)

17. where do we live?

18. what is your favorite place to go to?
"the truck"

19. what is your favorite color?
"uh, the firetruck"

20. what is your favorite thing to do with daddy?
"build the car road"

21. what is your favorite thing to do with mommy?

22. what is daddy's name?
"Dairk" (translation: Derek)

23. what is mommy's name?

24. what is your sister's name?

25. what is your favorite movie?
"toy story"

What's the funniest thing your toddler has said lately? Share below, I'd love to hear from you!

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Ten on Ten

Ten on Ten :: June 2015 Edition

1. Morning reading
2. Sibling bonding time
3. Happy face
4. Snack time
5. Treat time
6. Trying on a new shirt
7. He's growing up so fast
8. Laundry, my Everest

Didn't get all ten photos snapped, but it was fun to stop and notice the little things in life throughout the day. Can't wait to do it again next month!

If you want to learn more about Ten on Ten, hop on over to Rebekah's blog and check it out

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Hi Everyone

It's been ages since I last posted! Okay, I'm exaggerating just a tad but it definitely has been a long time since I've updated ya'll on life. Yeah, I'm super sorry about that. Honestly the emotional challenges of being pregnant after loss was really hard, and I just couldn't think of much else to talk about. Thankfully I was able to blog about my experiences over at Pregnancy After Loss Support, so if you have a little time you can check out some of my posts.

If you've left comments here and I didn't respond, please forgive me. My heart is still invested in this little blog; now that I'm in a different phase of life I want to get back to blogging more often so I can continue to connect with you.

Many of you already know but for those that don't know- our little baby girl arrived! 11 weeks ago, which is kind of hard to believe that's how much time has already gone by. Her name is Zoe Grace and she is all kinds of cute.

Am I right? *pats self on back*

Derek and I feel so blessed to have her in our lives. Toby loves her so much and Zoe feels the same about him; at least I think she does. 

Life with two littles to care for has been pretty great so far. Of course there are those moments when Toby is laying on the floor screeching/whining, Zoe is in one of her many baby-perches whilest crying, and I'm shoving as many chocolate chips as humanely possible into my face. It's not always pretty, but it's my life and I love it.

Anyways, I'm back to blogging. Again, I'm super sorry for being away for so long. Feels good to be back!